“Don’t’ want what you don’t want.”
This is what my mentor
Darren Hardy said this morning. I thought about this and wondered…
Have you ever been “ALL IN” for an idea or a project? If you
are a highly motivated, high achiever, you never do anything halfhearted. You
put your eye on the prize and you don’t stop till you have achieved it. That is
why you have a high success rate AND to “not achieve” what you set your eye on…is,
well…unthinkable. Have you ever though, gone all in to achieve something and
then when you achieved it, you really did not know why it had been so important
to you to achieve it. You discovered
that you had never really wanted it in the first place, but you were caught up
in the idea of achieving it.
I come from a farm and ranch background and a perfect
example of this is the annual Equipment Auction. Everyone attends, friends,
family, and neighbor. It is THE social event of the year. You can purchase
anything from a hammer to a John Deere tractor. The biding starts and you can
see the friendly competitions begin. $1, $5, $10, $20…$500, SOLD! Some of these
people really get caught up in the excitement of winning the bid. Honestly, I
have seen them purchase old, broken and bent items at a higher price than brand
new. But, they were the top bidder…they won the prize! The funny thing is that
a lot of this stuff shows up there the next year, because, I suppose that they
got it home and discovered it was not what they wanted.
All that effort. All that money wanting something that they
did not want.
I am sure that you have seen it your circle. A project that
gets a lot of attention and energy and you buy into it and give it your all and
when it is all over, you wonder why?
My point is: if you are going to go all in on something,
make sure it is something that you really want.
Don’t get caught up in the excitement and the achievement of
something only to find out that you don’t want it.
As my mentor Darren Hardy says,
“Don’t want what you don’t want.”
Great message, Rhonda!
ReplyDeleteI wonder if so much of our efforts to achieve and win is because we are trying to prove something to someone ... maybe even ourselves.
And perhaps once we've won, the celebration is met with a little disappointment because we were extending a lot of effort for all of the wrong reasons.
Perhaps once we get clear about our "Why", then we can line up our actions to match the steps to achieving. Then our "Why" is in alignment with our actions and the celebration of achievement can be so much sweeter.